"On Talking to Nude Models" by:
"I get a lot of comments on my nude pictures and not all of them are the kind of thing I want to hear. Take to following for example...
"I saw your pussy I liked so much that I want to have sex with you"
"can i see more of you??"
"i like your pussy"
"who needs viagra when a lovely one like you is able to do the job"
These are all private messages I have received. None of them are appropriate in any way, shape, or form. I do not want to hear about what you want to do to me, do not ask to see more of me because that is my choice, not yours, do not call my vagina a pussy (It's a body part, not a cat. I hate that word.), and definitely do not discuss your boners with me or I will block you.
I have used numerous examples with people like this but they simple don't get it. The closest thing I have found that works with them is for me to ask them how thy would react if a gay man came up and said those things to them which is quite sad. It's all men who have said these things to me and you have to ask them what would happen if a gay man came up to them and sexually harassed them because they are so sexist, so bigoted that if I said "What if I said these things to you?" they always respond with something along the lines of "I'd love it, babe!" because they think it would be a compliment to get sexually harassed.
Whoever said "Homophobia: the idea that gay men will treat you the way you treat women" was too correct.
But I digress. Back to how to talk to nude models.
You think we're sexy? That's cool, so do we sometimes. But you've got to think of the correct way to talk to a person. You wouldn't walk up to a stranger and start describing your boner so don't do it to me. You wouldn't stand in the middle of a museum and start loudly talking about your opinions regarding the breasts and genitals on the statues and paintings so don't start discussing the breasts and genitals in my work either because it is art too.
Obviously there are exceptions to this. If a model has got, say, a nipple piercing (which you won't have to worry about with me) and you like the jewelry then you can totally comment on it. The same goes for pretty much any piercing, tattoo, or prop placed near the breasts or genitals. But just crudely calling out something that is generally not spoken of? This isn't the most polite thing to do.
Acceptable comments I've gotten regarding my looks...
"I must say you do look very nice."
"You are a really cute model, by the way"
"you have such beautiful photos."
"And thank you for baring yourself to the world. You are lovely (and your man is a hunk!)."
There's nothing wrong with telling a person they are beautiful. In fact, you should do this more often because, in a society like ours, people need to hear it. Hell, there's nothing wrong with telling them they look good naked! But it's all in the way you talk. I'm much more likely to listen to you if you if you talk to me politely. Say hello, don't just run up and say "ur sexy" and run off because then I know that sex was the only thing on your mind. This doesn't go for everyone, but I'm not the biggest fan of being called sexy on here unless I've talked to you enough to know that sex isn't the only think on your mind. There are a thousand other words you can use besides sexy...cute, adorable, beautiful, attractive, lovely, gorgeous, pretty, alluring, handsome, divine, etc. You get the idea.
Word choice and politeness will get you miles further than crudeness and rudeness. If I've talked to you before, I probably won't have as much of a problem with you saying something like "Your boobs look pretty hot here!" on one of my pictures because I know you. I know that you're not just here to see my boobs, you actually want to talk to me too. I know I'm work more than just my boobs. Saying hello first, asking how I am, pointing out things other than my body that you like about the art work (the lighting, the angle, the colors, etc), using proper spelling and grammar (It shows me, again, that I'm worth more than just my nudity...I'm worth taking the time to type properly)...all of these things help."
Men-give models the respect they deserve. Nude models or not, each and every person deserves respect and dignity. And just because someone takes their clothes off does not lessen their importance or standing as a human being. After all, you didn't come out the womb with clothes, did you?